Insanity is doing the same thing over and over expecting a different result.
Working my ASS off at the gym and consuming the American“healthy diet” yet staying the same. “The Same” meaning the scale not moving, uncomfortable, body aches, joint pain, tired all the time, irritable, living on caffeine, not sleeping, overthinking, headaches, worrying, and burnt out.
For 20 years I kept trying to figure it out myself. Trial and error…over and over. Trying something else, buying a new product, doing a new fad, not eating carbs, signing up for new place, researching for answers…. When it didn’t work again, I would get discouraged, and want to give up. I was tired of failing, going back to my old ways, saying it’s too hard, complaining, assuming I can’t afford anything that works, using genetics as an excuse.🙈
I was sick of accepting “being fine” but driven because I was sick of feeling like crap.
I wasted so much time, money, energy instead of stepping out of my comfort zone and trying something I never did.
I can’t change the past, BUT I CAN change my future.
The day I turned 40, my mom had a stroke (literally she had a stroke the night of my birthday wtf) at the age of 59! FIFTY-NINE! I remember thinking FFFFUUUUCCCCKKKKKK THIS.
It wasn’t just a wake up call for her …but for me as well.
I had to admit that I did not know everything and obviously what I’m doing is NOT WORKING. My continuing to try to “figure it out” kept me stuck. My trying to “feel prepared” and “feel motivated” kept me in a never ending cycle; the knowledge-action gap.
Instead of doing what I have always done, I did something I never did…
I let go of fear, judgement, control and got out of my own way.
Instead of making excuses, reasons and justifications if why it won’t work, why “I can’t” ...I JUMPED.
I don’t know why, but you have to say YES and JUMP for it to work. I suppose that is what is meant by taking a A LEAP of Faith…
Once you JUMP, you DON’T HAVE A CHOICE but to make it happen! I finally understood what was meant by “burning the bridge” or “burning the boats”. Once you are there, you burn your way back; hence having no choice but to figure out the new situation and deal with it.
Excuse #1: “I can’t afford it.” Solution: I started by picking up an extra shift a week. Since I did not want to work more-or on weekends-but I also didn’t want to stay STUCK…it forced me to:
Stop procrastinating about doing things I needed to do!
Excuse #2 “I dont have time.” Put the work in for the things that could save time in the long run.
You discover where money every disappears every month; those damn monthly subscriptions for “only $7.99 a month” adds up.(I can’t remember all if them but they were those tedious tasks that you just have to do! (Such as making the phone call to AT&T wireless and tell them I am going to cancel because bill is too high and magically they cut the bill in half. We just have to suck it up, sit on hold and DO IT.
(Dance while you are on hold:)
Time & Money Suckers:
💸I temporarily gave up social media, Facebook, & watching the news- I deleted the apps from my phone 💸
💸I canceled my cable (we had tons of channels but all we watch is Netflix, amazon prime and ESPN)💸
💸I made the call and got Netflix covered by T-mobile 💸
💸I set up the app on my phone from the library to get FREE audiobooks, FREE kindle books instead of buying books💸 (App is called Libby)
💸I would take out audiobooks, books, CDS and movies from the library instead of buying music and on demand movies💸
💸I started meal prepping for the week on a day off or evening instead of buying breakfast, snacks, lunch & dinner at work which were totaling $8-$12 a day💸
💸I stopped buying coffee in the morning from Starbucks or Dunkin💸
💸I stopped going out to eat and getting fast food -I told my kids once a week on fridays, IF they were good all week (Usually they were not-cha ching)😂
💸I started going to Aldi first before Mariano’s/Jewel/Trader joes and spent a little extra time grocery shopping, looking at sale papers, making lists (I did this at work when I had downtime)- then taking pic of list so I don’t forget it at home 😂
💸I canceled my gym membership at LA fitness $37 a month & charter fitness $10 =$47 a month and did DVDS at home (and now Beachbody on demand $8 a month) 💸
💸I bought weights at five below instead of target or Dicks 💸
💸I canceled iTunes monthly💸
💸I canceled satellite radio and did free podcasts💸
💸Linked my citi card to amazon so my points could be used for amazon purchases 💸
Then I had the money to make the change I needed.💰
Eventually, this lead to figuring out how valuable my time is …
Any complaint you have, pay attention to the reason you use to justify it. There is your EXCUSE.
Whatever your reason is, that is your excuse.
P.S. I love House of Pain’s Jump Around song and I go nuts whenever it comes on…HOWEVER who wants to be a one hit wonder…When you can Be.A.Legend👇🏻like this guy. #vanhalen #davidleeroth